All you have to do is to have a baby to make you realize how precious everyday is. My youngest is 15, and I knows it’s been said a million times - but truly it was just yesterday I was in labor. I don’t have any horrible labor stories, all three of mine were born in 2 hours or less - I had worse stomach flu! The really hard part of having kids is trying to be a parent when you have no real frame of reference to worth.
You may end up “becoming your mom”, but that’s a very small part. My husband, who is my boys stepfather, taught me how important it is to be there with them - really with them. He has been here since they were 6 or under. He has always gotten right down on the ground with them. He gave them QUALITY time. He’s never had kids of his own, but I think my ex and especially me, should take a lesson from him. He is who they run to when they are hurt or need to talk. I used to get jealous and upset, but I know my boys have and are still getting the best parenting they could ever have. It’s all respect and love.